A MUST READ POST! I wish that this, along with other self esteem training, was taught in all our schools.
We don’t talk about abuse as much as we should…..Because
- Because nobody else is talking about it and I’ll feel like the only one
- Because I don’t want anyone else to know my dirty secret
- Because I didn’t think about talking about it until now
- Because I am afraid
- Because I don’t want to get low
- Because it’s overwhelming….. there’s too much and if I start talking will I ever stop talking?
- Because I want to still be me and not a victim
- Because I don’t want people feeling sorry for me
- Because I don’t want my batterer or abuser to win by letting it affect my life now
- Because I’ve moved on and don’t want to go back
- Because I don’t want counseling…..only weak people need counseling
- Because I…
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Let’s Stop The Excuses and Break The Silence
If we aren’t alone…..if staggering statistics clearly show that abuse is a worldwide problem that does not discriminate……affecting people of all races, gender, financial status, religion, sexual orientation, background, etc……then why don’t we talk about it more. Well…..Because
- Because it’s difficult
- Because of the repercussions
- Because of what other people will think of us
- Because I don’t want to hurt anybody
- Because no-one will believe me
- Because there is nothing they can do about it
- Because I’m an adult now…..so i have moved on
- Because I’m trying to forget it happened
- Because it’s not a big deal…..I got over it
- Because it happened a long time ago
- Because the family would be torn apart
- Because they will think I am crazy
- Because I don’t want to be a burden
- Because I will called a liar and labelled mentally ill
- Because I feel embarrassed
- Because I feel ashamed
- Because it would…
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Another excellent TED blog post with resources to help break the silence.
Why is it that, when we talk about sexual violence and domestic abuse, we talk about the women involved and erase the men from the conversation?[ted_talkteaser id=1753]In his TED talk, violence-prevention educator Jackson Katz explains why sentences like “Mary is a battered woman” are far more common than ones like “John beat Mary.” The takeaway of Katz’s talk: That we have to stop thinking of violence against women as a women’s issue. He urges men to look at the various institutions in society that help produce violent behavior, and to become leaders in calling out behavior that’s entwined with violence against women.
We asked Katz to compile a list of resources for those invigorated by the conversation on how we can shift cultural norms, as well as for those who want more information on organizations that tackle sexual violence and domestic abuse. Here, Katz’s incredibly comprehensive list.
Men’s organizations working to…
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A powerful and hopeful story.
The formal office setting could have been a bit intimidating, at least a little, if had come to be assessed by the young medical professional, and if he had not been so warm and welcoming. It isn’t every day I sit in the office of professionals, interviewing them and hearing stories of childhood abuse, sexual addictions and struggle.
It’s happened before, with a lawyer, my age, who simply needed to share his journey, and weep, and several other medical professionals, but still, it is rare. Whether that is because they have done so well, that pulling a painful story to the forefront is too overwhelming, or the fear of what clients, patients or customers might think, if they were to discover it.
Whatever the reason, it’s not because these hurts and traumas don’t exist there…. it’s just rare that I am the one sitting across from them. When I do…
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